The purpose of the committee is to assist parishioners upon the death of their loved ones. We express our condolences and offer to prepare a meal following the funeral, if the family would like. We also prepare food to help the family during this time of loss.
There's an elephant in the room.
It is large and squatting, so it is hard to get around it.
Yet we squeeze by with "How are you?" and "I'm fine"
And a thousand other forms of trivial chatter.
We talk about the weather. We talk about work.
We talk about everything else - except the elephant in the room
There's an elephant in the room. We all know it is there.
We are thinking about the elephant as we talk. It is constantly on our minds.
For you see, it is a very big elephant.
But we do not talk about
the elephant in the room.
Oh, please say her name.
Oh, please say "Barbara" again.
Oh, please, let's talk about the
elephant in the room.
For if we talk about her death,
perhaps we can talk about her life.
Can I say "Barbara" and not
have you look away?
For if I cannot, you are
leaving me Alone...
In a room.....
With an elephant.
Blessed Are the Sorrowful
In the Process of Grief…They Shall Be Healed
And what does it mean to mourn? I asked the multitude, and an elder stepped forward. To mourn, he said, is to be given a second heart. It is to care so deeply that you show your ache in person. To mourn is to not be ashamed of the tears. It is to be broken, to be built up and to be healed all in the same moment. Blessed are you if you can minister to others with an understanding of your own broken being. Blessed are you if you have a heart that feels, a heart that hurts and a heart that loves. And blessed are you if you can minister to others with a heart that serves and a heart that sees the need before it's spoken. To mourn is to forget yourself for a moment and to get lost in someone else's pain and then to find yourself in the very act of getting lost. To mourn is to be an expert in the miracle of being careful with another's pain. It is to be full of willingness of forever reaching out to and picking up and holding carefully those who hurt. To mourn is to sing with the dying and to be healed by the song and by the death. To mourn is to move forward and to look back. To mourn is to say YES!